Buddhist Pema Chodron believes that there are only three emotions we want to be operating out of when engaged in anything at all — they are:
Not that I am a Buddhist but I do resonate with this statement very much and for me it is important to stay connected to all the teachings. This statement is connecting into what I had spoken about in previous blogs: that no experience is bad in its own self, because it is solely meant for your growth and that it is all about the journey.
Again, we see the word “ acceptance.“ Does this mean we need to accept all? Yes, it does. Remember how I was talking about accepting what is in order to create change? Once you accept what is, you have opened into a productive and empowered way to create change. We could also look at acceptance as complete surrender. Surrender to the Divine, God, Allah … you pick your name for the consciousness that we all are a part of. And surrender into “what am I supposed to learn here?”
What is the opposite of acceptance? Resistance. Try for yourself as you are moving through life to pay attention to which state you are being or operating out of. If it is not acceptance, enjoyment or enthusiasm, do your best to get there. Especially when you are encountering something that is “negative” to you, in your experience. Notice if you are not accepting what is. Most likely resistance and/or fear are holding you hostage. The key here is that fear or resistance is the worst state to operate out of. It is completely non supportive of you, on the contrary it holds you back, slows you down, and hinders you in creating change.
Acceptance permits the flow with life, the changes that are inevitable. When we resist, we resist life and our learning lessons. Resistance equals pain. And what resists, persists. As long as you are judging the experience or making it bad (resisting) it will not change. If the situation does change even though you were resisting it, it will come back at another time in your life when you will be better equipped to handle the situation and use it to heal yourself through learning. Only acknowledged and learned lessons allow you to release the old and truly move forward.
Let’s do look at enjoyment and enthusiasm for a moment. Another extreme on the other side of the scale for example would be excessive highs, obsession, lust, thrills … which are out of balance emotions. They are ego emotions and can be just as destructive as fear, anger or judgment. As high as you go, that is how low you will go, hence the roller coaster. Also here wanting to look for enthusiasm or the golden middle of balanced enjoyment.
Important to remember is the fact that we can only change ourselves. I promise you that once you realize the empowerment that conscious choice will give you, it is something that you will not want to ever undo. It is truly a balanced, perfect state of ease and grace of being.
So Imagine a world where all Beings operate only out of these three emotions.
Acceptance, enjoyment and enthusiasm. What a wonderful world we would have.
Until next time,
Love and Light,