Independence.

Independence.
What a powerful concept.
It infers freedom from oppression, freedom from co-dependency, freedom from need and even freedom from attachments.
It gives us permission to be free from the “we” or the “oneness” of our essence and play human on a journey for just a little time.
Contrary to many spiritualists, I am a great believer in the “I”.  Surely, the “I” may mark the ego, as it keeps us separate but isn’t being separate, individual and singular in our earthly bodies exactly why we came here?
Obviously we are all one,
we have covered this and the oneness of all beings is the ultimate state of consciousness, yes.
However, here on earth, one can only truly serve the whole by fully embracing the experience of “I”.
So if the “I” infers ego, what is so bad about that?
Why is everybody so afraid of the ego?
The ego is built in,
the ego is apart of this human experience and the ego has a positive side to it,
like anything else.
The positive side of the ego says things like, “get up, dust yourself off and try again.”  It says, “you can do this, don’t give up now, believe in yourself!”
The ego is your natural cheerleader and belongs to your “I”.
Through the individuality of being different, dancing to the beat of your own drum, following your truth, no matter what others say…only by being yourself, can you fulfill your independence and inner freedom.
 True independence is the fearless pursuit and exploration of yourself as “I”.
You are here to be the independent creator within the co-creation of light consciousness.  This is your journey!
You are here to be independent and you owe it to yourself to stand out!
There is nothing spiritual about following or blending in.
Fitting in is then in and of itself ego, just in reversed form.
Independence has to have ego, otherwise independence wouldn’t be able to thrive in it’s uniqueness and difference.
But and here is the big BUT,
the ultimate independence is in the co-creation with one’s
divine guidance.
Independence guided by the ego will never end well nor will it take the individual soul into it’s fulfillment or purpose. Independence can only truly find it’s full glory if and when this independence gets guided by ones inner light and it’s authenticity.  And this is where the ego gets trained to support the human experience in alignment with the inner voice.
This is where you get to teach your ego to trust your inner knowing and feeling sensory, as your soul’s communication and most important reference point.
You are the boss of you and you get to direct your ego’s attention inward.
Point your ego away from your thoughts and into your knowing.  Become one with this inner relationship, so that even your ego feels useful and apart of a greater mission.
The mission of total independence, while dancing in the web of oneness –
with the light, as the light and for the light.
So get your ego on a leash,
train it to support your inner guidance and have fun being the creator you have come here to be.
Surrender to your light guidance –
make your ego trust it!
And then have fun in letting your colors shine bright.
With blessings of love and light to you and yours,
xoxoxBrittaxoxo

Undying Love.

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Undying love.
The more you love, the more love you have to give.
There is and never will be a shortage of love.
Love is the essence of your soul and source.  It is what this universe is made of.
However, on this journey through life, we often get hurt, experience loss or pain through betrayal – because we loved. Many times, this results in the “shutting down” of ones heart.
I look at our planet earth and see so many with closed hearts. Pain and fear easily shuts down the heart.  It is a subconscious reaction, when one doesn’t want to feel pain. It happens by attaching negative thoughts to the painful experience.
However, from a spiritual perspective, just because something feels painful doesn’t mean it is negative.  That is simply our trained knee jerk reaction.
The negative thoughts about the painful experience create dense energies that literally cover up the hearts ability
to resonate.
We have learned to numb ourselves and disconnect from feeling by closing down the most miraculous organ in our body,
your heart.
The heart is the first organ that forms, when we are growing within our mother’s womb. The heart is 100 times electrically stronger and up to 5000 times magnetically stronger than the brain.  It is through the heart that we feel emotions such as love, compassion, joy, peace and empathy.
It is through the heart that we connect with all other Beings and into our oneness consciousness.
The heart rate changes due to feelings and emotions and affects the heart rhythm patterns.  Anxiety, stress, anger or frustrations cause the heart rhythm patterns to become chaotic.  This affects the physical body with insufficient function, causes extra wear and tear on the body and depletes ones energy.  Stress and prolonged negativity will manifest in form of density.
Of course the way to prolong ones suffering is through thinking, by taking on the victim – poor me, suffering approach. By attaching a story to the pain and giving it reasonable justification.
The pain must be felt
but it feels so much better though an open heart.
The greater the suffering, the greater the gifts of independence, strength and growth.
There can only be suffering, when there is attachment on the human level in form of the personal will or dependencies.
BREATHE!
Your breath connects into your heart and will assist you in being clearheaded enough, so that you will find the right thoughts and perspectives to choose.  When in doubt or in too much emotional pain, do not think at all!
You can feel all the emotions but still refrain from holding yourself in the
victim position.
You are NEVER a victim.  THATis the illusion. EVERYTHINGhappens for you!
There are always lessons, but you have to be willing to own them.

Everything is meant to give to you, to add to your souls healing, growth and purpose.

Whatever thought tells you otherwise, is not your friend.
When we feel love, appreciation and care, our heart rhythm patterns become a harmonious and smooth wave. These harmonious patterns will make us more consciously aware of ourselves and the universe around us. These waves connect into the vibrational patterns of nature, sacred geometry and light consciousness.
This is why positive emotions feel so good.
We become synchronized, the body works better and we literally become lighter.
To be open hearted is your natural state, when you are connected to your soul – regardless of the emotional experience.
You feel a sense of trust that everything will work out and a common understanding of a wisdom within yourself. It is the freedom to be and to flow faithfully with what is.
It is when all systems run in harmony, including your intuition, your foresight and ability to read energy.
Love never dies.
Whether a loved one passes or a lover leaves, your love is undying and can be unconditional, regardless of the situation.
If there was love before, it can continue to be there.
Truthfully it continues to be there, but it is your choice to allow it.  😉
From a spiritual perspective the absence of love is what we came here to heal as the infinite souls that we are. Our souls have brought into this lifetime an array of emotional karma, that still wants to be cleared. Only love can heal the absence of love, only love can fill it’s place.  There is either love or the absence of it. You can feel sadness and loss but you can feel it with love and with compassion for self or for another. Let’s be real, nothing is personal and whatever the cause of your suffering may be – you agreed to it on a soul level to teach you what you were still missing.
Our souls have loved each other for eternity.  Somebody can be your greatest enemy here on earth.  The second you see each other in the light, at home, as souls, you will hug each other and the love will be there in it’s purest and fullest form.  Think about that.  It is the illusion that tells us about suffering and our brains are wired to buy into it!
It is the love that is the truth, which binds us in eternity.
Drop the illusion and keep your heart open wide, as open as the sky.  Allow your undying love to remain your personal experience, at all times; regardless of the illusion.
You are infinite and eternal, and so is your love.
With blessings of love and light to you and yours,
xoxoxBrittaxoxo

Honoring the Great Mother.

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Happy Mothers Day to all Mothers and the Great Mother in all women.

We ought to worship the Mother everyday. But do we?

How often do we take our Mothers for granted and how easy is it to feel annoyed or frustrated by the woman who gave birth to us? Then again, so many have lost their Mothers and feel the lack, the loss and the deep pain of it like a gaping, dark hole in ones soul. Of course, through the light perspective we never loose anybody and our entire soul family surrounds us at all times. And since love is the vibration that communications through all dimensions, lets express our love to all Mothers, to the great Mother in all Mothers, no matter where she is materialized in this very moment.

Say, “Thank you Mother for everything that you have done for me. Thank you for Birthing me into this earthly experience. Thank you for being the vessel, who’s soul my soul knows so deeply and loves so fully. And thank you for playing out every part, every role that has caused pain at times and joy in others. Our souls are forever connected and one in our light. I am grateful for the warmth that fills my heart in this moment, the warmth of the light of love.”

I would like to take this opportunity to worship the divine Mother. I am here to celebrate and love our female face of God.

It is Mothers Day and she is the Mother of all Mothers. Lets give honor and gratitude to the balance of Mother God in perfect balance and harmony next to father God. As in the highest light of Oneness no gender specification exits, the materialization of male and female is apart of the consciousness expansion.

Mother Earth is the incarnation of our Divine Mother!

Let’s hear it for Mother Earth!

“Mother Earth, please forgive us for all the hurt and pain we are causing you as the Human race. So many still don’t know themselves – as the light that is apart of you. But so many know themselves as the light and as intimately connected with your great loving support and magnificent strength and total power. You could wipe us all out in a split second, only to illuminate the illusion of fear and pain that separated us from you in the first place, where we finally are freed into the ocean of loving light and Oneness. Thank you for allowing us to continue to rape and exploit you, all of your bounty, all of your children, all of our brothers and sisters. Thank you for renewing the air for us, as we continue to pollute and destroy your purity with unconsciousness driven by ego fear, greed and denial. Thank you Great Mother for loving us unconditionally and letting us see, feel and experience the results of our choices and actions. Thank you for allowing our mistakes. Thank you for continuously supporting and nourishing our bodies and beings with your loving wholesomeness. Thank you as you weep with us in the sorrow of the illusion and readily rejoice with us in the light of our Oneness – just as soon as us Humans choose to step into our hearts and open through the pain into the ocean loving warmth.”

I would also like to send loving healing, strength and light support to all the Mothers that are living in any kind of suppressive environments.

It is time to invoke a great influx of loving gratitude and acknowledgment to all Mothers and the Great Mother that resides within each and every one of them, and us, and you and me.

We also wish to invoke the awareness of the Great Mother within every young woman. May you know the great power, which resides within you.

May we all know the authentic empowerment that is the Great Mother within you. Feel the great love that surpasses the illusion of separation.

With love and light to you and yours,

xoxoBxoxo

Judgment.

Observation is wisdom

Judgment

We have all been conditioned to judge and many people want to defend their right to have “good judgment,” as they find it necessary for their navigation through life. Yet through the eyes of spirit, judgment is the absence of love and acceptance.

Seeing through the eyes of spirit, there are levels to everything. In the purest light, there is no right and there is no wrong. There is compassion for the obvious density, fear, pain and confusion out of which many people operate. Through the eyes of spirit, unconsciousness is seen as “still in growth or in learning progress,” which is the reason for this earth play in the first place.

When we see through our human eyes, however, we witness killing, hatred and destruction, and well yes, we judge. We feel wronged by people and judge others as cruel, stupid and even worthless. Through our human experiences we see with judgment, as it has been programmed into our perceptions from childhood on. We were taught “good” and we were taught “bad”. But more so than judging others, we judge ourselves. The ego has a field day with making the self bad and “less than,” or great and “better than”.

As the consciousness shift on our planet is steadily progressing, we witness the need and desire for discernment. We begin to understand the psychology behind the infliction of pain is pain. The reason for aggression is pain and fear. Similarly, the reasons for betrayal, abandonment and manipulation are also fear and unconsciousness. We seem to be in agreement that a centered and calm person would act very differently than a person who is highly distressed and running on survival mode or fight/flight.

This is why it is time to bridge the distance between compassionate understanding for unconsciousness in the process of growth, and judging something or somebody. It is the practice of observation that allows us to register clearly “what is” and understand the deeper influences of what is at play.

We most often judge when we emotionally relate to the event or person. We also tend to judge ourselves more frequently when an outside event or person triggers us. What judgment really does is, it sucks us into the drama because it gets us emotionally involved. The practice of observation is a wonderful tool that can help us be present and see everything but at the same time remain in clarity about the bigger picture of what we are seeing. When we observe or witness from a bigger picture perspective we stand in our center, versus when we judge, we have been pulled out of our center by the emotions. And this doesn’t mean “to not feel” but rather to keep the emotions separate from the thought patterns for the time being. You can feel everything, while staying fully centered and present to the bigger picture. As a matter of fact, seeing the bigger picture means understanding that nothing is ever personal. Every soul grows in their own time. This perspective holds the space of observation and will lighten the emotional experience quite a bit. Leaving you closer to your innate essence of unconditional love and acceptance.

I am not a “turn the other cheek” kind of a person and being unconditional doesn’t mean you allow any kind of abuse, once you have observed it. Abuse in any form, including self-abuse, is not of divine truth. Hold the space of light but draw healthy boundaries when necessary.

In essence, judgment is a surface and rather shallow act. Through observation one sees everything, processes the information of the situation and what place the other person is operating out of. This gives all the clarity one needs to chose a conscious response or make a smart decision. Giving the feeling of “good judgment” but judgment free.

I am wishing you and yours a blessed day.

With Love and Light,

xoxoBxoxo

 

 

 

What is Love?

Love is the only way!

What is Love?

Happy Valentine’s Day my Friends.

How could I ignore the red heart shaped candy boxes and big-eyed teddy bears in every store, and not write about Love?

We all have experienced the butterflies in our stomachs, the romantic thoughts that keep us from focusing on that work project and the deep longing to see the other person again, as soon as possible.

But this is only the so-called “Honeymoon” phase of love. It is a chemical reaction that makes us feel “in love” with a person.

The question that arises is, “Is that really love”? Or is it a temporary hormonal rush that has us wear rose-colored glasses for a few months, when we can only see the best sides of each other?

Granted, we all have the ability to put our best foot forward and we all have that charming, perfect side, where we only show ourselves in the best light possible. But then “real life” kicks in eventually and we get caught up in our fears, doubts, insecurities and our coping mechanisms that begin to cover up the purity of perfection we were so enthralled with.

So the question remains, “what is true love?”

From a spiritual perspective love is an unconditional state of acceptance. Which means that we would be able to love every part of ourselves and the other person’s parts, no matter what!

This would mean loving our fears, doubts, insecurities and coping mechanisms just the same.

As you and I know so very well, most people do not love themselves unconditionally and therefore aren’t able to love another without limitation.

Through the light lens, “love” in this earthly game, is the coming together of two souls. And it is the chemistry activated by their souls that pulls them together in form of attraction. Both souls agreed to the encounter, as nothing ever happens without our higher-self permission. And both souls are here with a mutual contract to fulfill in this lifetime.

What might that contract look like?

From the light envision, the soul contract serves both souls equally to their highest and greatest good.

No two contracts are ever alike but depending on their contract, there may be karma to repay, or good karma to receive. Often souls have unfinished business with each other that carried over from other lifetimes. There could be many different reasons as to why two souls make a contract but it most often involves a commitment to growth and often to help each other onto their highest paths.

Of course, there are those few lucky souls that have been aiming to find each other for lifetimes but kept missing or loosing each other again and again. These two souls will finally get that lifetime, where they come together and never let go again thereafter. Sometimes very happy and strong partnerships can also happen because two souls have very positive karma in the area of romantic relationship.

The rest of us are here to learn and grow our way through relationship back into love; back into true love, because it is the essence of our existence, unconditional love and acceptance.

Your soul’s goal is to allow the dynamic of relationship to be your tool to heal, grow and enlighten deeper. The mission, to find within yourself that which keeps you away from love! This means that love is work, it is a practice, it requires paying attention, it deserves your focus and commitment not only to your partner but mainly to yourself. For as long as we are in these earthly bodies we must deal with the conditioning that covers up the love and closes our hearts. This is exactly where the growth lies. We have been trained to deny, excuse or ignore our love opposing conditioning but if you are serious about love, get into the essence of it and be the unconditional acceptance that will activate your light from within. We must learn to embrace and embody our love, which means acting like it.

Therefore it isn’t so much the “in love” chemicals that describe love but rather the actions and choices you take to keep yourself out of your own way. Yielding to keep an open mind and an open heart to the exchange happening between two souls incarnate and which buttons of yours shut you down.

It is fully and completely your responsibility to practice staying open, while experiencing your earthly conditioning, nicely centered and without reaction, being your true self – love!

In the end it is the devotion to love that will shine your way into the ocean of your essence. Celebrating yourself, your partner and your relationship for the coming together of two brilliant Beings, aiming to reach their infinite existence within a human body experience.

May your Valentine be filled with love. Love for the world, love for the earth, love for yourself and love for this crazy experience called, “Human Being”.

Blessings to you and yours,

xoxoBrittaxoxo

Spirituality goes mainstream.

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Spirituality goes mainstream.

We are so blessed. We get to live in a time, where spirituality is the new cool and ones growth game is what inspires!

Of course, this planet needs a lot more light and healing but we are ‘doing it’ and the consciousness shift is happening.

As to anything, there are many levels and it is no different with spirituality. There is always deeper to go and it is my hearts desire to inspire this within you.

On the deeper levels, spirituality is the relationship with the divine, within and without. It is a way of life and has no exclusivity with religion or belief groups anymore. On the contrary, it is how deeply you are able to identify with the divinity within you on a day-to-day basis.

In no way is a spiritual path an escape or a guarantee for a better, easier life. Generally it gets worse before it gets better. The famous cup often times gets emptied before it will be refilled. All those old energies that do not serve our brilliance must be converted; otherwise they would continue to be in the way! In the end, however, when the clearings have been completed, the awareness has been opened and the empowerment has been found within, the experience of life will have changed forever and for the better. Why?

Because you will see clearly; you will see the most perfect orchestration at play, in your very own life and in the lives of others. Spirituality means you are open to the invisible force of light running the show, where everything happens for a reason and is meant to prepare you for the next level of strength and courage. Spirit may push us at times but it always happens from a pure place of love, with the intention of healing, illuminating, shifting and wholeness.

Spirituality is a proclamation to self on the soul level that says, “I release control and step into the unknown. I trust in my higher self and the wisdom of my soul. I surrender my ego’s will to the highest and greatest good of my soul’s plan.”

When you choose for your soul, you foresee the consequences of every choice. It means you care more about the long-term results of inner strengthening, self-worth and peace, versus the quick fix gratifications that will zap your energy and dis-empower you in the long run, always. There comes a time when nothing is more important than your self-love, self-worth and self- respect.

And let’s face it, in the end there really isn’t any choice. We may perceive this to be the planet of ‘free choice’ and we may have the freedom to choose living in denial happily ever after, but our souls will continue to push toward awakening and healing as the ultimate goal. So yes, in the end there is only one choice and that is the truth of our own identity – divinity.

Our true identity is pure light, it is grace, it is divinity. This divinity is the essence of everything in existence, it is the Oneness that modern science has been confirming for decades, it is the warmth of love and the brilliance of our eternal light. And so it is the practice of self-observation, the keen and tireless effort to dodge oneself from treating self or others as anything less than divine.

Spirituality is the ultimate alignment with your true identity, which is unconditional acceptance and love. This means that the most difficult practice of them all lies within. To witness and observe oneself with unconditional acceptance and to support oneself with the upmost love and kindness is spirituality. To re-learn feeling with acceptance, to scrutinize and deny negative thoughts and voices in ones own head, to stop all judgment perceptions and to calm down all internal reactions, unless approved by ones soul is the ultimate level of spirituality. It is the continuous detangling from attachments into radical freedom and independence from all need.

To be devoted to bettering oneself continuously and to deepen the relationship with the higher-self aspect of ones spirit is radical acceptance. From this place the relationship with the inner divine will strengthen and deepen.   As all relationships it requires attention, time, communication and presence.

Spirituality is the ultimate game and it is the ultimate goal. Not reserved for a selected few, but openly discussed at parties and over dinner. Nobody is being burned at the stake anymore either, phew! J So let’s celebrate our freedom to explore our own depth and let’s see it for 2016! “How deep can you go?”

Sending blessings of love and light to you and yours,

xoxoBxoxo

Love your pain!

John Lennon It's all ok

Love your pain!

Spirituality has become almost trendy and the navel perspective is the new cool.  Many people feel the calling and have a knowing that it is the direction to go in…, “why” they don’t really know but it just seems to “feel” so right.

Of course there is a great reason as to why spirituality is influencing “main stream” and the pop culture of our time.

Earth is evolving, the vibrations are rising and nothing can or will stop this consciousness evolution as this time. The sound “OM”, which is the sound that penetrates everything here on earth used to be measured at 7.83 Hz.  This was also known as Mother Earth’s heart beat.  In the recent years we have seen an increase of the earth’s frequency up to 17.00 Hz, which affects our brain waves and has humanity “wake up” as a result.

This increase is also the reason why my 12-year-old daughter says to me, “Mom, time is moving so fast, please stop it and slow it down! I don’t want for it to go by so quickly!” The earth’s frequency increase is the reason why we have been experiencing “time flying by”.

We are becoming conscious, “YAY” but the transition isn’t always easy.This consciousness shift will take us out of the suffering of the illusion into awareness of living in the dream, or being the dreamer of your own dream.  But in order for us to transition, any density will have to be released, as it cannot sustain itself within the higher frequencies.

What does this mean you might ask? This means we have to grow and evolve and life will push us into it, whether we like it or not. The density I am speaking of are your emotions and mental patterns that keep you caught up in the illusion/drama and therefore in low energy frequency.

So then what will take you out of the lower “suffering” vibration into the higher frequencies of lighthearted living?

Acceptance and love!

You already know that judgment of the “suffering experience” doesn’t produce light!

You also know that denying or escaping the “suffering experience” will only result in blaming and shaming of somebody or something.

And you also know that living in fear, worry or doubt doesn’t support your well-being.

Even though these are just a few examples of how we stay stuck in the suffering of the illusion, they certainly are “normal” knee jerk reactions we all still indulge in.  Some people even justify their suffering as if addicted to the “known”.

It is your job and responsibility to  relax with the discomfort and learn to breathe into it!Only a relaxed state of acceptance will lighten the experience and only an unconditional perspective will heal and clear the old patterns.

As you already know it isn’t about the other person or circumstance that is causing your suffering; hence the “navel perspective”. Whatever suffering arises from within you was there before the present moment, otherwise it couldn’t have gotten triggered.

The way you unhook yourself from the victim mode of the illusion “things happening to you” and shift yourself into love and acceptance of your experience is by letting the discomfort point you inward to the place within, where low vibration is ready to be lifted and raised up.

In essence this means “learn to love your pain”.

No experience is ever bad and everything happens for you, so you must follow it inside of yourself and shine the light of wisdom and compassion into the suffering patterns that stand out like a sore thumb.

You want to learn to release the judgment from within you because your soul doesn’t judge, which will bring in light.

You also must face all emotions with unconditional acceptance because only love heals.

When you let go of attaching to fear because your soul doesn’t fear, you will make tremendous space for love and light (more of your essence).

Ultimately you will learn to love everything!  You already are infinite love and light and anything other than being your true self – just won’t do!

I wish there was a magic wand or a pill that I could give to you, so that you would master the art of loving every experience with unconditional acceptance, but I don’t have either. Please know – It is this way for a specific reason. You incarnated so you would do it for yourself.   It’s your incarnation to own and become powerful in.

Only by being love and unconditional acceptance will you strengthen within!

I know, I know, it’s easier said than done…. but as always, slow and steady wins the race. Do your best and you will naturally become stronger and better at it. Spirituality doesn’t mean you will feel “blissed out” everyday, it means you are consciously working on clearing and healing your soul; it means you are lifting yourself out of the suffering cycle of the illusion, because only you can!

Blessings of love and light to you and yours,

xoxoBxoxo

Freedom to love.

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Freedom to love.

“It isn’t about who you love but how you love”, said Lennon.    

 I agree with John 100%. Who we love isn’t the issue; in the end nobody can give us permission but ourselves.  

Gay, straight or whatever other preference there may be. The issue is “how are you loving”? 

“How deep can you go?”

We know that marriage is merely a protection, which is supposed to have the outer world “accept” the desired union. For example, in the case of a tragic accident, the one partner if not of the opposite sex now finally has the right to visit their loved one in the hospital. (Sad but true in the case of an emergency, if not married, one doesn’t have the rights to visit their loved one in the hospital. Crazy huh?)

But marriage doesn’t immediately equal love, as we all know plenty of unhappy marriages.

As always the heart of the issue moves away from the outer world, direction inward. We can always love more and we can always love deeper. Love is good for our soul, it makes us happy and healthy, it clears karma, it raises our vibration… it makes us taste life. Love is the greatest flavor of life, however do we really savor this flavor called LOVE? Do we actually give ourselves permission to LOVE fully and do we even know what this feels like?

We have all learned “how to” love differently.

Some of us have learned that love hurts, that it betrays, some that love nurtures, that it abandons and others that love is critical. We already know that we replay the stories we have perceived and the patterns we have learned since childhood. Surely we can all agree, there are always deeper and purer levels to love. We can always love more!

Why wouldn’t we want to care to love more fully and more deeply? Why is it perceived as a risk by so many? 

Because we have shut down, because we have closed up or built walls so tall that they appear indestructible! 

We are afraid to get hurt again. I have a client who promised himself to never open up and “let that happen again”!

 One client said to me “I told myself, the less I feel the less I can get hurt”. 

Another said “I don’t think that I can ever trust again”.

Those are pretty big statements and hold great repercussion.

You may not realize this but when we promise ourselves “to never let that happen again” or “to never feel that again”, we give an agreement, an unwritten contract to ourselves, which will forever change the way we love. This verbal contract with ourselves is what shuts down the heart, builds up the walls and shifts us from feeling fully into intellectualizing everything.

You will want to go back in memory lane and ask yourself “what promises have I made to myself”?

So perhaps it isn’t about needing anybody to give you permission to love, but rather to free yourself from the chains of the past? It is up to you, it is your choice to free yourself so that you may love fully again!

If you are wondering about your levels of love and if you are incapable of loving deeply, you certainly want to invest some time to dig. 

It could be an ancient and deeply buried contract you made with yourself. 

Maybe you didn’t even really mean what you said at the time and have forgotten all about it.

One clue for you is to rewind life and remember the times of devastation. Remember when you cried for weeks over the loss of love. Don’t worry, you will not relive the pain but hopefully remember how you felt about the experience. 

Try to remember if in those moments of pain you gave yourself bad advice or reacted with a protective statement. 

Ask your subconscious: “what are my agreements or contracts that I have made in regard to love and the pain it caused me? 

Have I put protection mechanisms into place that are keeping me from feeling safe and open to love?”

Wait, this may take a few days, even weeks, keep asking; keep listening. Listen within, the answers as well as the communication is there. It needs you to choose it, as it takes two to tango. The answers will come, stay persistent.

Once you have your answers you now must take freedom into your own hands.

 I suggest you void all old contracts by writing them down on paper and burning them in a fire (full or new moons are a perfect time). Release the past, free yourself by proclaiming “I release you into the universe. I release you back into love and light consciousness.”

Next, you write down a new contract with yourself, one that promotes love and the feeling experience of it. One that affirms your safety in love and in feeling it.  

After all, emotions are just energy. You either let them flow through or build and strengthen them with thoughts. 

Speak this new statement out loud every day for 21 days.

I promise you things will change. You will begin to feel freer and lighter. You will feel more open yet safe in this openness.

You will feel more LOVE!

Choose love, choose your freedom to love and choose to taste life in its fullness. You deserve it and you owe it to yourself.

May you love deeply and may you love gracefully.

Blessings to you and yours.

With love and light,

xoxoBrittaxoxo

R – E – S – P – E- C – T!

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R-E-S-P-E-C-T! 

…. find out what it means to me… .”

As all choices and actions affect our energy and light frequency, self-respect is one of those “pointers to self”, as to continually illuminate the areas (programming) where deeper consideration is necessary.

If you imagine your conditioning as an onion, self- respect will want you to peel back the layers within every single area of your life and reclaim your authentic empowerment.

However disrespect gets recognized within your body, it is a call for action. It is time to speak up, express your boundaries, make a move, look at your options and consider possible choices/changes.

Every time you allow disrespect, it chips away at your light frequency and makes your energy bodies a little denser. The action of disrespect from another person cannot harm you, unless you allow it. Allowing means, you do nothing about it. I don’t mean immediate action is necessary; sometimes it takes time to figure out what is to the highest and greatest good. As you can see, it isn’t about the other person, it is all up to you. It is your job not to allow dis-respect as it will dis-empower you!

First, lets focus on recognizing disrespect. As we all have our patterns, some of us have known and even grown up with disrespect as “the norm”. You may have lived with your dad disrespecting your mom or your dad feeling disrespected at work, for example. Depending, if they did something to change their experience, it might have taught you to either assert yourself or to take it all laying down.

One thing is for certain, most of us have layers of disempowering conditioning.

So what does it look like, what does it feel like to you, when you experience disrespect? Do you get angry or sad, do you want to get back at the person and get even? Does it make you feel hopeless or insignificant? Do you let it identify you and allow it to be personal… as to confirm your “victim” identity? 

Before any action, I do encourage you to “check in” with yourself first. Be sure that you are not operating out of a “victim” or needy energy. In your calm and centered core you know the truth, if what you experienced truly was disrespect or if you are creating drama.

Never take disrespect “personal”, it never is. It may feel personal, if so, it means you must look within and find your triggers/wounding to heal and clear first. Breathe through the emotion until it has dissipated.

Whenever another operates in disrespectful ways, it shows where they are and out of which place of consciousness they are living. Unconsciousness doesn’t recognize unconsciousness, so try to remember this the next time you want to make it personal!

It is about you taking the necessary steps however. It is up to you to take action that clarifies “I will not allow or accept disrespect”. 

Another important point is that what may appear disrespectful to you may not necessarily appear disrespectful to the other person. We are all different in our perspectives and conditioning. In this case you need to get clear and super honest with yourself, ask yourself “can I live with this”, “is this acceptable to me or will I continue to compromise my truth and betray myself?” Take your time and wait for a repetitive calm answer to appear from within. 

Every step you take toward claiming your self- respect, you will nurture and grow your self-esteem more and more.

This is very important for your sense of self and how you operate in the world. Remember, people can read energy. Even generally unconscious people sense and feel good/bad energy! It’s not a mystery at all! So be very clear with yourself. When something keeps bothering you and in your truth is disrespectful, you must face it, for your own good! This will require courage for some of us as it may seem easier to stay in the “old comfort-zone” of what is – even if dis-respectful!

Here are your two choices of action:

*One – You express and communicate calmly and firmly your perspective in regard to the disrespect.

Now, again, check yourself first! You must have cleared through your emotional trigger before you can have any kind of self- respecting, calm, cool and collected conversation. If you still feel hurt, jealous, betrayed, angry…. wait; breathe, feel and don’t think. Unhook yourself and care for yourself first – always! Only when calm, cool and collected can you clearly state your point of view and bring your point home – the fact that disrespect is unacceptable to you and in case it continues, you will not allow yourself to stay in the current situation. 

You are showing boundaries, this is healthy and strengthening. 

*Two – You walk away!

If the warning conversation didn’t work, perhaps you are not being taken seriously. In this case you must follow through on the expressed consequence and take your word and your worth seriously.

However, let’s not forget about your open heart. Feel all emotions through your heart and try to keep your heart open. Even “walking away” is an open hearted action. It leaves an energy space of respect, which allows for growth.  Nothing is final – ever! 

So even taking a strong stance from a place of clarity and love shows the possibility of the person or situation shifting.

God’s speed my friend, God’s speed.  

The consequences of tolerating and allowing dis-respect for an extended period of time, are greater than any perceived “loss” you may encounter by speaking your truth or even walking away!

To not stand up and protect yourself from the dangerous energy of dis-respect will result in loss of energy, stored emotions and feeling overwhelmed and weak. It will trigger a gradual decline in confidence, ability to be an active player in life and most importantly – your heart chakra will slowly shut down! 

Why? Because you are not showing yourself the LOVE!

In the end the price you pay, when you fail to summon courage and strength, will cost your soul.

I want to encourage you to pay attention to your energy and feeling experience. It’s actually fun and interesting to play detective as you get to unravel patterns that only hinder you!

Pray for guidance and ask for answers, then get calm and wait to hear a response. Do not rush any action but at the same token, do not stall if you are clear.

Have fun owning yourself.

Until the next time.

With blessings of love and light,

xoxoBrittaxoxo

 

Understanding Forgiveness.

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Understanding forgiveness.

I hear people say things like “forgiveness is overrated”, “why should I forgive that person” or “I am not ready yet”.

Most people have a misperception about forgiveness.

1) Some think that forgiving somebody will mean, they now condone what happened and that it is for the benefit of the other person, to relieve their guilt.

2) Others think that forgiving somebody must be the highest form of unconditional love and therefore if you truly forgive – you now should be able to be/spend time with this person again.

3) Then there are those who think that “to forgive is to forget” and all is just fine and dandy again.

None of the above is accurate!

1) Forgiveness NEVER means that you will condone what happened.  It isn’t about righting the wrong or having to bend over, not at all.  You never betray your truth!

Plus it really isn’t meant to benefit anybody else but YOU!      It’s not for the other person!

2) If and when you do forgive somebody, you may never ever see this person again, and that is ok.  Forgiveness is NOT about the other person and it doesn’t mean you have to be “bff’s” again.  One could actually consider it being a self-ish act, since the purpose is to free yourself from the other person by letting go of your own attachments!

3) If indeed this person is very close to you and you choose to forgive in order to keep the relationship intact, you cannot sweep it under the proverbial rug.

There is no “forgiveness button”. There is no timeline and there are no set rules.  It is not a “one time” action and there is no “quick fix” either. Forgiveness is a process that can take time and certainly requires repetition.  It is a choice that you must make to free yourself from the pain of the past; in other words, to keep “it” from marinating you in the suffering.

Forgiveness means there is always an abuser role and a victim role present.  Both require forgiveness.  Forgiveness will always include self-forgiveness, as, whether you like it or not, it always takes two to tango.  Perhaps you were the abuser, perhaps the victim.  Neither experience is positive nor is worth holding onto! Both are driven by fear!

True, it doesn’t change the past or what happened but it is the only way for you to move forward freely.

Everything is energy. We replay the mental story of what happened from our perspective as well as the emotional experience of how it made us feel. If you keep the story alive in your mind by engaging the old thoughts and voices, you are keeping yourself attached to the other person and the situation through energetic cords. These cords are the reason we want to aim for forgiveness… .

AND self-forgiveness will increase your awareness about yourself. As you recognize your – abuser or victim- aspects, you will change your behavior through change of action!!  You are taking responsibility for the victim or abuser – you.  This means as you forgive yourself through awareness you also set yourself free from the old pattern within and give yourself the permission to choose anew!

This is why forgiveness is hard and not for the weak of heart.  It takes gusto to take responsibility for your own patterns. Good/bad doesn’t matter, patterns are patterns and energy.

Imagine yourself reliving the story of your past in your mind over and over again.  Mostly when you are feeling particularly tired, sad, angry, weak and triggered by a similar experience that feels just like what happened in the past.  Not only are you staying in your story but what is even worse, you are unknowingly holding onto the other person through the energetic cords that connect you both!  Think about that! How many people are you holding onto? Imagine the weight! Imagine the energy it takes to maintain these cords!

You must break the cycle! It will not only change your programming and patterns but also disconnect your energetic cords and connections to the other(s).

How to forgive:

Whenever you feel the old emotions you breathe and stop the thought patterns from hooking you. Visualize the person that is under your mental attack. Then say out loud:

“I release you from playing this role for me.  Go in peace.

I release you!”

Simultaneously visualize the energetic cord getting cut on your end as you say “I release you”, leaving you free to be you and clearing the karma between you and the other.

This process must become your inner, private practice to repeat whenever you are feeling resentment toward another!

How about self-forgiveness?

When you witness yourself mentally blaming or shaming another, you are being the abuser.

If you are witnessing yourself blaming and shaming yourself, you are being the victim.

This may vacillate, as most of us have both patterns within.

Here you follow a similar process.  Breathe and feel through the emotions these thoughts or voices activated.

Remember; you have to feel it to heal it!

Now you say to yourself: “I forgive me (say your name) for playing this role”. “I am not this role”. “I free me from playing this role. “  “I am open to choosing a better role for myself!”

See, forgiveness is a mental practice; it is a mental act.  Whenever you are blaming, shaming and feeding resentment you want to pay attention. It is your cue to pivot and release.

If this particular person is in your life you certainly want to find the time and place for communication, for solution focused conversation and clarity.  This will give you the position to choose this person anew or change the dynamics. You are in charge, you are in control of your peace and self respect!

Don’t leave it to anybody else. Take it! Own it! Claim it!

Slowly but surely you will free yourself from the lack of love and the stories of lack from your past.  This will free you to move forward into a bright and joyous future because only when you are free, can you create anew!

Forgive as much and as often as you can.  It will clear your energy and open your heart. Creating your reality your way!

With much love and blessings of light to you and yours.

xoxoBrittaxoxo

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