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Commitment.

  |   breath, change, healing, self love
Commitment is a big word and applicable to all areas of life. 
We know commitment to a person in a romantic relationship but we also know the importance of commitment to a cause or one’s purpose.
Commitment appears to have been on a downswing for the newer generations. 
The Millennials don’t want to commit to one specific person or one specific purpose.  
The new generations have given themselves permission to stay commitment free and drift through life, unattached. The hook up culture is shutting down the hearts of many and emotional connection has become a memory from the past.
Whereas the older generations hold stronger values in work ethic, attitude toward their commitments as responsibilities and honoring committed relationships with monogamy.
 
It seems that the sense of obligation or responsibility weighs heavily on the minds and hearts of many. As if it infringes on a perception of freedom, the space to live without attachments and spontaneity; or does it? Does commitment keep us from being in the flow?
 
I feel that it is time to redefine commitment. We can learn so much from the Millennials and their ability to see the bigger picture, the world as one and to feel freedom in just being. But something is missing and everybody can feel it.
 
Avoiding commitment is like a protection from disappointment or from failure. Challenges and the mere process of one’s strength being tested is how we grow as humans. 
If we never commit to anybody or anything, nothing matters. If nothing matters, then we’ll never strengthen, we’ll never learn how to fight for something nor do we ever get to deepen ourselves. 
If I don’t commit – I don’t risk anything and so it’s worthless.
Without commitment, nothing can get to you but nothing can inspire you either.
Real commitment is an opening of the heart and the emotions. On the deeper level lack of commitment is a lack of love or a holding back of love.
 
What is deep commitment?  
A sense of devotion and depth of dedication.
At a minimum, true commitment must be upheld to the self. 
This includes being open to one’s emotions, so that the emotional information and communication can tell us about what feels right and what doesn’t. We have to be open and committed to ourselves in order to know, (which is feeling sensory), our very own truth.  If everything gets rationalized by the brain, then anything can be justified. The inner compass of integrity becomes obsolete. We are entering an era of robots replacing partners, romantic partners.  This may be the future but it is also highly dangerous. We must not disconnect from our hearts that thrive when we commit to self, another person or a cause. Devotion to the inner rightness is a feeling and it is through commitment that we get to strengthen within.
 
As to the blending of younger and older generations I suggest the inner balance between commitment to self and the tender awareness toward the need for 
inner freedom – 
both are feeling matters. 
There is a space in between commitment because we care, and honoring the need for freedom just the same.  
Both can and must coexist within a full life. In the end, there is no true sense of freedom if one never commits.  And there is no satisfaction in commitment, if one doesn’t get to feel freedom within.
Only true commitment creates the full experience of inner freedom and visa versa. 
As all things in life, everything has its balance point and everything in life will always find it’s balance. 
With love and light blessings to you and yours.
Happy Valentine’s Day,
xoxoxoBrittaxoxoxo