What is Love?
Happy Valentine’s Day my Friends.
How could I ignore the red heart shaped candy boxes and big-eyed teddy bears in every store, and not write about Love?
We all have experienced the butterflies in our stomachs, the romantic thoughts that keep us from focusing on that work project and the deep longing to see the other person again, as soon as possible.
But this is only the so-called “Honeymoon” phase of love. It is a chemical reaction that makes us feel “in love” with a person.
The question that arises is, “Is that really love”? Or is it a temporary hormonal rush that has us wear rose-colored glasses for a few months, when we can only see the best sides of each other?
Granted, we all have the ability to put our best foot forward and we all have that charming, perfect side, where we only show ourselves in the best light possible. But then “real life” kicks in eventually and we get caught up in our fears, doubts, insecurities and our coping mechanisms that begin to cover up the purity of perfection we were so enthralled with.
So the question remains, “what is true love?”
From a spiritual perspective love is an unconditional state of acceptance. Which means that we would be able to love every part of ourselves and the other person’s parts, no matter what!
This would mean loving our fears, doubts, insecurities and coping mechanisms just the same.
As you and I know so very well, most people do not love themselves unconditionally and therefore aren’t able to love another without limitation.
Through the light lens, “love” in this earthly game, is the coming together of two souls. And it is the chemistry activated by their souls that pulls them together in form of attraction. Both souls agreed to the encounter, as nothing ever happens without our higher-self permission. And both souls are here with a mutual contract to fulfill in this lifetime.
What might that contract look like?
From the light envision, the soul contract serves both souls equally to their highest and greatest good.
No two contracts are ever alike but depending on their contract, there may be karma to repay, or good karma to receive. Often souls have unfinished business with each other that carried over from other lifetimes. There could be many different reasons as to why two souls make a contract but it most often involves a commitment to growth and often to help each other onto their highest paths.
Of course, there are those few lucky souls that have been aiming to find each other for lifetimes but kept missing or loosing each other again and again. These two souls will finally get that lifetime, where they come together and never let go again thereafter. Sometimes very happy and strong partnerships can also happen because two souls have very positive karma in the area of romantic relationship.
The rest of us are here to learn and grow our way through relationship back into love; back into true love, because it is the essence of our existence, unconditional love and acceptance.
Your soul’s goal is to allow the dynamic of relationship to be your tool to heal, grow and enlighten deeper. The mission, to find within yourself that which keeps you away from love! This means that love is work, it is a practice, it requires paying attention, it deserves your focus and commitment not only to your partner but mainly to yourself. For as long as we are in these earthly bodies we must deal with the conditioning that covers up the love and closes our hearts. This is exactly where the growth lies. We have been trained to deny, excuse or ignore our love opposing conditioning but if you are serious about love, get into the essence of it and be the unconditional acceptance that will activate your light from within. We must learn to embrace and embody our love, which means acting like it.
Therefore it isn’t so much the “in love” chemicals that describe love but rather the actions and choices you take to keep yourself out of your own way. Yielding to keep an open mind and an open heart to the exchange happening between two souls incarnate and which buttons of yours shut you down.
It is fully and completely your responsibility to practice staying open, while experiencing your earthly conditioning, nicely centered and without reaction, being your true self – love!
In the end it is the devotion to love that will shine your way into the ocean of your essence. Celebrating yourself, your partner and your relationship for the coming together of two brilliant Beings, aiming to reach their infinite existence within a human body experience.
May your Valentine be filled with love. Love for the world, love for the earth, love for yourself and love for this crazy experience called, “Human Being”.
Blessings to you and yours,