Comfortable in your Skin

Hello again : )

This month’s blog is about your skin … and whether or not you are comfortable in it!?

One of my clients said the other day: “All the work I have been doing on myself, has been so worth it! I am actually becoming comfortable in my skin.  I am being myself and I am ok with it!!!”

I loved my client’s comment and felt very inspired by it. Because ultimately isn’t it one of the most important aspects to being and happiness, to be happy in one’s own skin?!?

I assume that most of you who are reading this blog are on the path of bettering yourselves and practicing consciousness of being.  Are there ever times when you do feel uncomfortable in being you, unsure of yourself or insecure for example?  Do you ever feel uncomfortable in your skin?  I am sure this happens to you; it happens to everybody! These are the times and moments filled with valuable material for you!  The moments and times want to be keenly observed and worked with. Never judge! Breathe!!!

Always using the breath, try not to think or intellectualize what you are experiencing! If you are feeling something uncomfortable, then just feel it.  Remember you have to feel it to heal it!

Only if you feel your emotions unconditionally in the moment will you not store it.  Do not think while you are acknowledging to yourself what it is you are feeling.  This allows the emotion to flow right through you and then move on.  Emotions are energy and so are you.  Once the emotion has passed through you is it ok to turn back to your mind. 

Now you may ask yourself: “Where did this uncomfortable emotion come from? Was I judging myself?  Was I judging another Being or a situation? Was this perhaps old conditioning/programming showing itself?” “Did I judge myself through other people’s eyes, perhaps?”

By being honest with yourself you will now be able to identify this experience through the use of your mind and register what indeed created this discomfort in being you and/or being in your own skin.  From here you will have gained great conscious knowledge of yourself so that when it does happen again you will be better equipped to handle it:  better equipped to recognize the pattern which you have identified and stop it, and stop yourself in your tracks! 

Stop your thoughts, whether superior ego or victim ego and say “NO”!  “This is not an acceptable conditioning anymore, I refuse to engage in these thoughts!” Breathe and distance yourself from those old pattern thoughts for as long as you need to, no thoughts, just breath.

The key is to breathe and continuously shift away from those thoughts, knowing it is only conditioning, it is not who you really are!!! Take control of your mind!  Because you can! J
Enjoy working toward a more comfortable skin to live in as you are honoring your journey.

Namaste everybody,
Love and Light,

Acceptance, Enjoyment, Enthusiasm


Buddhist Pema Chodron believes that there are only three emotions we want to be operating out of when engaged in anything at all — they are:

  • Acceptance
  • Enjoyment
  • Enthusiasm

Not that I am a Buddhist but I do resonate with this statement very much and for me it is important to stay connected to all the teachings. This statement is connecting into what I had spoken about in previous blogs:  that no experience is bad in its own self, because it is solely meant for your growth and that it is all about the journey.

Again, we see the word “ acceptance.“  Does this mean we need to accept all?  Yes, it does.  Remember how I was talking about accepting what is in order to create change?  Once you accept what is, you have opened into a productive and empowered way to create change. We could also look at acceptance as complete surrender.  Surrender to the Divine, God, Allah … you pick your name for the consciousness that we all are a part of.  And surrender into “what am I supposed to learn here?”

What is the opposite of acceptance?  Resistance.  Try for yourself as you are moving through life to pay attention to which state you are being or operating out of.  If it is not acceptance, enjoyment or enthusiasm, do your best to get there.  Especially when you are encountering something that is “negative” to you, in your experience.  Notice if you are not accepting what is.  Most likely resistance and/or fear are holding you hostage.  The key here is that fear or resistance is the worst state to operate out of.  It is completely non supportive of you, on the contrary it holds you back, slows you down, and hinders you in creating change.

Acceptance permits the flow with life, the changes that are inevitable.  When we resist, we resist life and our learning lessons.  Resistance equals pain.  And what resists, persists.  As long as you are judging the experience or making it bad (resisting) it will not change.  If the situation does change even though you were resisting it, it will come back at another time in your life when you will be better equipped to handle the situation and use it to heal yourself through learning.  Only acknowledged and learned lessons allow you to release the old and truly move forward.

Let’s do look at enjoyment and enthusiasm for a moment.  Another extreme on the other side of the scale for example would be excessive highs, obsession, lust, thrills … which are out of balance emotions.  They are ego emotions and can be just as destructive as fear, anger or judgment.  As high as you go, that is how low you will go, hence the roller coaster.  Also here wanting to look for enthusiasm or the golden middle of balanced enjoyment.

Important to remember is the fact that we can only change ourselves.  I promise you that once you realize the empowerment that conscious choice will give you, it is something that you will not want to ever undo.  It is truly a balanced, perfect state of ease and grace of being.

So Imagine a world where all Beings operate only out of these three emotions.
Acceptance, enjoyment and enthusiasm.  What a wonderful world we would have.

Until next time,

Love and Light,


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