So many of us are plagued by fears. There is the fear of flying, fear of heights, fear of snakes, fear of water, fear of germs, fear of dentist etc.
Then there are more internal and intangible fears such as fear of loss, fear of abandonment, fear of success, fear of love, fear of commitment, fear of failure, fear of public speaking, just to name a few.
Here is the most common fear of all: “Fear of the unknown”.
All these fears feel real and can be quite debilitating. The strange this is … none of these fears are actually real.
Fears result from our conditioning or programming. They stem from past experiences and the perceptions of those events. You were born without fears (give or take a few fears from past life time’s carry over ;0). Essentially, you were born fearless: free to explore and with a clean slate.
So if fears are just programming and not who you are, then why do they hold such power over us? It is almost as if our society has deemed fears as dangerous daemons, made them out to be bigger, smarter and more powerful than we are and could ever be. Why do we so readily accept these fears and why do we identify with them as if they are something cool and interesting to share? Fears have become a conversation piece for entertainment. How many times have you dramatically shared your fear of heights for example? How many times have you accepted another failed attempt at business or relationship because of your inability to give it your all? How many times have you let a fear hold you back?
You know fears are like a bad domino trick – you allow and accept one fear, which makes accommodation for another fear, and that for another – next thing you know your pillars of confidence are collapsing uncontrollably. Fear breeds fear, it builds upon itself.
Fears are energy suckers, they literally drain the life force out of you.
The more predominant your fear, the more it weakens you. At the moment that you know for example that you feel the need to change something but in reality you don’t because you are too fearful of the unknown, you are a little bit weaker than the previous moment.
And all because you haven’t realized yet that you give fear its power.
Without you fear is powerless! It needs you to feed it, to accept it, to engage it and to keep it alive. You feed it and keep it alive with your thoughts. You justify and even identify with your fear through your thoughts, when in truth you are not your thoughts and you are certainly not your fears (because your fears don’t exist, remember?)
When you overcome your fear and you move through it to the other side you are strengthened. You’ve taken back your power back. You are less self-debilitated. You’ve freed yourself from imprisonment.
You have to want it though. You must choose to and desire to be liberated and more empowered than ever before. Imagine yourself fearless! What would you do? What wouldn’t you do?
Once you can see yourself free from your fear, you are ready! You can feel it. You are ready to move through it.
What you want to do is lean into your fear. Get to know it. Realize that without your thoughts, it has no substance. Lean into it deeper still.
Feel your resistance to it and lean into that. By moving into it you are literally taken the power out of it. It’s like stepping into a dark, cold and scary room, once you turn the lights and the heat on you will see that there is nothing scary about the room at all. You may even begin to like the space of the room so much that it’ll become your new favorite hang out space. When you lean into your fears, you will realize that there is nothing to fear but fear itself. Your fears aren’t real unless you make them real.
So be bigger than your fears, be smarter and face them fearlessly because that is who you really are. Make it real … let your siblings, your friends, and your colleagues know that they can change their debilitating fears as well